Comments for API Norman, Oklahoma

Comment on I want to cultivate… by deedra

deedra — Sun, 10 May 2009 03:50:39 +0000

I took Wyatt out after the rain too. He loves being outdoors as well…and the puddles and mushrooms growing under the tree were great discoveries. Love these little ones!

Comment on I want to cultivate… by Lara

Lara — Tue, 05 May 2009 02:06:31 +0000

Right now, I’m all about encouraging her interest in the natural world. At 21 months, she finds everything outside to be amazing–her “rolys” (pillbugs), ants, and snails, and the plants in the garden, the new tree, the rain we’ve had all week, etc. I love that she can stare at an ant for a full 2 minutes without blinking and then look up at me like she just discovered a new galaxy.

Comment on Isn’t shelter a good thing? by Amy

Amy — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 01:26:39 +0000

The “Bringing up Geeks” book was a good one. I need to check out the other two that you mention. I think it is hard to look so far ahead and am trying to focus on the here and now. If we build a good foundation now, later will be better for everyone.

Comment on Isn’t shelter a good thing? by Peter

Peter — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:45:42 +0000

Thanks for the suggestion. There’s a similar thread in “Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves” - about parents worrying about being judged by other adults with similar consequences. I’ll have to check out the book you suggested.

Comment on Isn’t shelter a good thing? by John

John — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:36:59 +0000

You should take a look at the book, “Protecting the Gift.” It suggests that parents really do have pretty good gut instincts; however, due to fear of offending others, we often suppress our better judgment and end up putting ourselves and children in greater danger.

This book is definitely worth the look.

Comment on What to do in Norman this Summer by Jean

Jean — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 12:27:09 +0000

Touch a Truck is this Saturday (April 25) from 9-12 at the Cleveland County Fairgrounds. It’s $2 per kid, with all money going to the children’s area of the library.

Comment on What to do in Norman this Summer by katie

katie — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:41:52 +0000

i don’t know the exact information about it yet, but the norman music festival is this upcoming weekend and i hear they will have a kid’s stage. we plan to check that out with our 16 month old.

Comment on Am I giving her a “daddy complex” already? by Peter

Peter — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:33:35 +0000

Yes, we tried a goodby ritual, just like a going to bed ritual, but that seemed to just make her more focused on me leaving. The distraction is the one that works best for her during this phase. (The ritual works best for me)

Comment on Am I giving her a “daddy complex” already? by Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:17:31 +0000

Eric struggles with this too — and has found it nearly impossible to work at home at all. He has to leave the house to get anything done. For us, distracting Tobin from his papa is a momentous task — and I am usually unsuccessful.

So I don’t have much advice — except to add that it is a phase. I remember this exact same thing with Cora (although it was much less intense).

I wonder if having a goodbye ritual would help –along the lines of what we do to get ready for bed and naps — fairly set script the two of you act out. Perhaps reminding her that it is time for you to go to work, reading a book, a big hug and kiss goodbye etc? But having the same routine each day — so that over time she knows what to expect.

I also know that when Eric dares to leave his office after a transition has been made it seems like we start all over. Perhaps it might help to call Lara on the phone and have her do a major distraction when you have to run to the bathroom or get a drink of water.

Comment on Am I giving her a “daddy complex” already? by Peter

Peter — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 02:16:09 +0000

Thanks for the helpful comments. Yes, I do currently close the door when the work day starts and it does help. She’s started using the words “office” or “work” - seemingly to ask me if I’m going away. That’s what I think she’s asking anyway and I just wish it was a little easier.